To be fully functional, that is to be at one’s best, people need unconditional positive regard from others, love and support from family, friends, and authority figures, such as teachers and religious leaders. Sadly, the majority of us do not receive this because we develop ‘conditions of worth’, that is, accepted conditions of value placed on us by others by accepting or rejecting experiences to gain positive regard from others. As such, we have accepted experiences as being good or bad based on the judgments of others and not our own. Thus, as infants, we grew striving towards and accepting positively valued experiences and avoiding and rejecting experiences valued negatively.
Ultimately, our ‘selves’ begin to form as infants when we then recognised a differentiated portion of experiences as having a particular quality. Our infant selves are therefore built with self-concept, that is the ideas and feelings one has of oneself. Self-concept builds influentially as a result of being with others and being evaluated by others. Thus, if the self contains interjected material from others, the self may actualise differently from the organism resulting in a state of disharmony between the self and organism. This is incongruence between self and organism and accordingly, the greater the disharmony from interjections, the greater the incongruence between self and organism. Moreover, the greater this incongruence is will result in greater psychological disorders.
These interjected experiences wrongly brought into conscious awareness and given meaning to are also experienced as threatening to the integrity of the self. The processes of defence become entrenched and a psychological disorder builds up so that under certain circumstances, the self-concept effectively ‘breaks’ under the pressure. The resulting state of disorganisation will be experienced characteristically by the individual as anxiety, depression, confusion, pain, or colloquially, a ‘nervous breakdown’.
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